Competition | A New Perspective


Human life is a universal experience, but we all are unique beings. There are unlimited resources in the universe, and we are the creators and vibrational attractors of anything we want in our lives.


The list of things we want is endless. Maybe you want a nice home, a great relationship, extravagant vacations, children or a career that you love. Perhaps you have created some of these things in your life already, be it through thinking positive thoughts, feeling good or taking action. However, the chances are, there are a few areas in which you might want something new, different or “better.” After all, we are human, and this is our conditioning. It gets dangerous when we begin to focus mostly on what we don’t have (I like to call this the ‘lack of space’), and forget all that we DO have (the ‘abundant space’) and how far we have come. We compare ourselves to others, and think, “Why don’t I have that awesome job as a CEO? I’m smart, driven, I should be there already!” or “I deserve that relationship. Why haven’t I met my partner yet?”

The media doesn’t help either – social media in particular. We see posts (only the good stuff, of course) of people traveling to exotic locations, having happy family gatherings, snuggling up to loved ones, looking fabulous or having fun! We feel jealous or lacking in our lives in some way, delving deeper into our lack of space, and subconsciously thinking there are not enough resources to have what we want. You have been there. You think, there’s not enough money, men, or good jobs out there. You decide that this is “true,” and therefore you must compete for these resources.

But what if this isn’t true? What if there is enough for everyone? Think about health – is there not enough wellness to go around, or does someone have to be sick because another person is so well? The truth is that our resources are INFINITE! We are all powerful creators of our realities. We are all unique beings, part of a larger collective whole. We are each on our path, and we cannot compare or “compete” with other humans because their path is totally different from ours. We often compare ourselves with someone’s final manifestation (e.g. CEO position) after we have just decided that we want this. Silly us. The only thing that we should be comparing is the personal desire and the feeling we have about this desire. If the feeling about what we want is positive, we will eventually HAVE it. We are the vibrational attractors of our realities and can create whatever we want in our lives. So, if we are feeling good (a high vibration), we will attract only high vibrational experiences, people, and situations. To manifest what we want, remember, there is no ‘competition’ with others. We must practice this: FOCUS our feelings to feel good about what it is that we want, and VOILA! It will happen.

The First Key: We need to FEEL GOOD about ourselves and what we want

Ideally, we want to aim to feel good all the time, and when we aren’t, to choose the good-feeling thoughts. These thoughts will create your emotions, then beliefs, then circumstances and actions and finally physical manifestations of what you desire.

So, we must choose to feel good – which is a new concept for many of us – about ourselves and others, and where they are and where we are. We must decide to find peace, joy, and pleasure. A comparison can help us raise our expectations or perhaps inspire us, but we must surround our comparisons with happy thoughts to allow our desires IN. The Universe already knows what you want, but you must feel good before you can get it. And who doesn’t want to feel good!?

The Second Key: LISTEN to your guidance system

Give yourself the time and space to hear it. Then, hear what it says. Pay attention to spontaneous ideas, thoughts, or any repetitive emotions you have, even if they seem unrelated to what you desire. When you follow this guidance, it will lead you to connections with others that will draw you closer to what you desire. For example, you may keep getting a thought to go to a particular restaurant or take a yoga class or even give an old friend a call. These things might seem unrelated to getting the job of your dreams, but the Universe is an intricate web of connections, and you might not always know the why’s and how’s. Just listen and give it a try. You will see!

The Third Key: ALLOW what you want in

Allowing is sometimes the hardest part. We keep wondering and are SO focused on the NOT-having of what we want, so that is all the universe hears. We are resisting our what-is-ness, not having made peace with our path, and therefore blocking our desires. We must FEEL AS IF we already have this “thing” that we want. We must visualize and believe we already are living this life. We must choose thoughts that evoke these emotions and simply “ignore” the less helpful ones! Turn toward what you DO want to think, feel, and have! Then, it will come quickly, and when it does, you will recognize it and know it’s for real. You do deserve it – a life you love and are proud to call your own!

There is NO Competition, my friends. Everyone can be, do, and have everything that they want. We have to be FOR and not against each other. EVERYONE wins when we believe in this. We are all one. Start thinking this way, and you will notice all the people who have it “all,” and realize you can have it too! Feel good for them and for yourself. You will feel the momentum of feeling good growing! There is no shortage in the Universe. You create your reality by beginning by first changing your thoughts.

Try it.

I promise you will be pleasantly surprised!